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2014 – In Retrospect

by melmonica on December 31st, 2014


2014, is by far the most uneventful year in my 20s. However, as unexciting as this year may be, it is also the year that I mature the most as a person. 2012 – 2013 was the most fun just because it was my soul-searching year and I was constantly experimenting and gathering all these different things and experience which led to the person that I am today.

This year I focus more on building my relationship with my boyfriend by moving in with him. It was hard in the beginning and I sometimes questioned if I made the right choice. As times passed and after several huge fights, we finally saw the light at the end of the tunnel. I am so glad that right now we are at the stage where we can finally talk it out in a non-judgmental way.

Career-wise, I’ve only worked for a short 4 months *gasp*. Some people may see it as a luxury but it’s not a fun thing at all, really. Since I had a lot of free time, I channel them into reflecting about the person that I am, the person that I aspire to be and the person I want to be remembered as. I read a lot, planned out my short term and long term goal and ready to put ‘em into action.

My philosophy is: You owe it to yourself to be the best person you can possibly be. You also owe it to yourself to be the happiest you can ever be and that you should always surround yourself in happiness. Which also meant not listening/ caring too much of what other people says.

Also i think i’ve said this a couple of times on my blog but always believe in yourself amidst adversity. I know it’s easier said than done. I’ve been there, done that during my WH days – being in a foreign country not knowing a single soul, not having that comfort zone and security blanket that most of us take for granted. Anyway, those times were a really good life lesson. When you are placed in a situation where you have to literally stand on your own two feet, trust me you will discover some hidden talents/ personality that you never knew you have. Like the saying goes, “You’ll never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”

Physically, currently I am living with the result of 2 Starbucks Frapp/day x 5 months worth of fat. I have this unsightly loose fat around my abdomen that I can’t seem to get rid of. Tbh, I didn’t do anything intensive to get rid of it but I have cut down my intake of carbohydrate + minimal amount of exercise i.e. cycling but to no avail. I absolutely detest doing sit-ups but unfortunately, no pain no gain right? And as I said earlier, you owe it to yourself to be the best version of yourself so I have all the right in the world to have a banging body. I’ve said it countless time on my blog but I seriously gotta take the first step to do a bit of exercise. Maybe I should just start twice a week and move up from there.

Ok. New Year’s resolution.


  • Start exercising.
  • Eat healthier
  • Practice my English more by updating more frequently
  • And swear lesser. You have no idea how often i eff here and there *shameful*



Best of 2014



Soul-searching aside, there were some terrific events happened this year.

In Feb, my bestie got married and the 5 of us were reunited like before again 🙂


It was such a lovely ceremony. Wish i could relive those moments with my best friends again <3

While I move to Invercargill, I had the opportunity to go for road trips with Ozias from Riverton to Dunedin to Queenstown to Wanaka and we had tones of fun discovering our fav Asian eatery and café. The best thing about having Ozias is that we’ll always have each other’s back especially during our most emo/ vulnerable days. We both miss Malaysia terribly, him – the food, me – the freedom LOL but we just gotta put our heads down and do what we intend to do here in the first place before going home and enjoy the fruits of our labour. (What labour la I’m talking about since I’m the one who only worked for 4 months this year sigh)

Other than that, 2 of my girlfriends got pregnant and Yuha delivered a beautiful baby girl. Now, waiting for Nem to pop in Feb! Plus my best friend Bra tied the knot this year and the wedding reception is May. So many exciting news and fingers crossed that I’ll be able to make it. Wouldn’t wana miss it for the world.


Anyway, I am grateful for these blogs that had helped shaped my perspective of the world and inspired me.


Hui Fen is a Singaporean who used to work in Nuffnang SG. She is currently on a journey to be a yoga teacher in India. Her recent posts are more philosophical and the things that she learned during her yoga training are so apt. I could go on and on but do read her blog and hope that she inspires you as much as she did to me 🙂


A Malaysian girl living the fashion world dream. I love reading her blog and her dayre when she was studying in NYC. She’s my go-to fashion and beauty blog coz we both were in the same situation – Asian girl in a seasonal country. The harsh winter especially makes your skin go cray cray. Most of the products here are not Asian skin friendly (obviously) and I don’t want to spend a fortune experimenting with the products. So obviously she’s been there/ done that before so I trust her words *thumbs up*


Another Singaporean who did the whole eat/pray/love/ soul-searching thing a couple of months back in Melbourne and she encapsulated her journey very beautifully. Her writing could be emo at times. I reckon if she had met me during my emo/ rebellion phase, we would be best friend.

I guess, that’s about it. The blogs that inspired me the most. I read tones of them but those 3 are the ones that have the biggest impact on me.


Before I pen off, I would like to thank my boyfriend for always being there supporting me during my most emo and difficult times. I wouldn’t know where I would be if I hadn’t met him. And I hope that 2015 would be the year for us to solidify the foundation that we have built.


I’m also grateful for my friends back at home, who have always been supportive and loving me although I’m so far away. I am thankful that I have this group of close friends that I can always come back to and we would hang out like I’ve never left. I am working really hard to come home next year to see y’all so let’s hope for the best!


Unfortunately, my family is not doing so well this year. It seems that we are drifting apart even further – not sure if it’s because of the distance and the frequency (or lack thereof) of communication but I’m just hoping that if I get to go home next year, things would be better. I’m not ready to talk about it on my blog so maybe when I’m ready it will all just flow.


Here’s to another fantastic year for you guys. Do share with me your new year resolution and tips on losing belly fats haha. It would be great if we can spread more love everywhere this year.


Signing off 2014, see you 2015!



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